Energy Zappers

            What’s zapping you of your energy?  

Before I got divorced, I was constantly thinking/talking about what my husband was or wasn’t doing and how dysfunctional our marriage was.  It consumed me, to the point of emotional and physical exhaustion.

            People, circumstances, events, emotions, relationships, even pillows can drain you of your much needed energy.

            Pillows?  Yes, pillows.  Years ago, in an effort to keep up appearances, I had 6 pillows strategically placed throughout my living room,( which really isn’t where I wanted my kids to live, it was more of a parlor, where I desired to have an uncluttered, peaceful refuge for myself and my company).

            Those darn pillows were such a huge energy zapper in my life.  Due to 5 children who didn’t share in my value of aesthetics, those pillows got misplaced approximately 25 times a day.

 I either repositioned them while complaining loudly to my children or I would become very agitated and demand they quit acting like kids and leave the pillows alone!

Finally the thought struck me, “Why don’t you just put the pillows away until you have company and then get them out?” Why didn’t I think of that sooner?  It would have saved me a lot of wasted energy on something which really didn’t matter in the great scheme of things.

            So what is bothering you? Is it something simple as pillows? Or is it a bigger issue that is causing you emotional and physical exhaustion? 

            Is it going to a job you hate?  Are you constantly struggling with your finances?  Do you continue investing yourself in a dysfunctional relationship?

            We all have energy zappers in our life. The question is, what are they costing you?  What are you going to do about them?

ACTION STEPS:

1.     List all of the things/people that may be energy zappers in your life.

2.     Pick one of these.

3.     Brainstorm ideas which could alleviate these energy zappers.

4.     Find an accountability partner who can help you either eliminate energy zappers or find a positive way of improving the situation.

Stacy Rothenberger, M.S.CCC-SLP, CLC

Communications Disorders Consultant

Certified Mindset and Relationship Coach

rothenberger.stacy@gmail.com

www.lovingyourlifecoaching.com

Get Out of Your But

If I asked you how much you love your life on a scale of 0-10 (0 being the worst and 10 being the best) what would you say? 

For some of you, you might say, “I love all areas of my life BUT…….”and then you would go on to tell me the one area you aren’t happy with.

I’ve experienced that same thing, in fact I’ll be honest and admit I’m  currently very happy with my life, but...... I’m happy with: the events of my day (e.g. being able to work out and socialize at the gym for 2 hours 4 days a week), my relationship with my Hunka-Hunka-Burning Love, my interaction with my children, my ability to help individuals work through very difficult issues, the support and love of awesome friends, the location of where I live ( a manageable home in South Carolina) and the fact I am healthy, energetic and still have all of my mental capacities, BUT……… I’m still not making the amount of money I think I should be.

Instead of focusing on the one area of my life which isn’t how I think it should be, I am choosing to deliberately be in a state of thankfulness and gratitude for all of the other areas of my life which I am so happy  and thankful for.

Spiritually, I remind myself that “My God shall provide ALL of your needs according to HIS riches in glory in Christ Jesus.  I have always had every one of financial needs met so why should I start doubting His ability to provide for me now?

Sometimes we need to look back to be reminded of how things have worked out in the past.  I can give so many examples of when money appeared without me having to do a single thing to procure it (e.g. my first year of college was paid by a family I babysat for.  I had done nothing to ask for their assistance, they just wanted to honor me for being such a blessing to their family).Yet, many other times I have tried to get busy and help the universe out by forcing things to happen(e.g. deciding I was going to marry someone after only knowing him for one week). Those situations were the ones which ended up biting me in the butt.

So today I will get out of my BUT and live in Faith.  I believe God is constantly arranging situations for our greater good. I can chose to love EVERY aspect of my life (even the area that isn’t what I think it should be) while I’m waiting and trusting that my life is exactly as it should be in this moment of time. 

How about you? Do you need to get out of your but? Could you choose to love your life despite that one area which isn’t where you want it to be yet?

Stacy Rothenberger

Certified Mindset and Relationship Coach

Communication Disorders Expert

www.lovingyourlifecoaching.com